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A work rant because I need to blow off some steam [Sep. 22nd, 2012|04:32 am]
wtf? that's sexist!

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Sometimes I get phone calls at work for reservations, even in the middle of the night, and something about the guy (it's always a guy) on the other end of the line sets off me creepdar. I'm never sure what to do with that. I mean, I'm at work, representing my place of employment, and unless he says something overtly creepy, I have to do my job.

I got one of those calls tonight. A guy looking for a suite for his and his wife's first anniversary. Something about him set me on edge right away, and I'm not even sure what it was. All he did was explain the situation and ask if we had any deals going on that might apply to them. I explained about our "Romance Package", which includes things like sparkling cider, champagne glasses, and chocolates in the room before they check in, all the while very wary that at any moment, he was going to cross a line.

Well, he did ... and he didn't. It's a line that's definitely there, but it's one a lot of people miss. He asked me what I thought his wife might find romantic to do for their anniversary, and whether I thought she would mind if he brought their dog with them. What I said was, "Well, sir, I would say that very much depends upon your wife. Everyone's different." What I wanted to say was, "Why the fuck should I know what your wife thinks or likes better that you do, just because I also happen to own a vagina?"

Seriously, guys. You want to do something nice for your wife or girlfriend on your anniversary? Find a way to celebrate her uniqueness and the things you love about her. Don't conflate her with all women ever as if we are interchangeable. It makes you look like a dick.
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I can't stop being mad about this. [Jul. 16th, 2012|03:21 pm]
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One of my superiors at work was referring someone over to me, and described me as "the little girl in the blue shirt." I'm fairly short, but I'm 25 years old, and I find it so fucking insulting. He wouldn't call a 25 year old guy "the little boy in the blue shirt," not ever. So, is this sexist or not? I don't think I'm overreacting, but I know if I brought it up to him he would say I was, and invalidate me for it.
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Estrogen is evil! [May. 26th, 2012|12:11 am]
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Xposted from my journal. [May. 16th, 2012|05:14 pm]
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Has the world changed somehow since last I noticed?
Interesting little incident today. Bored out of my skull I went to a local second-hand shop to see if I could find anything interesting (not really). The cashier was a young man who was very friendly and interested in me.
That's nice. He made small talk and then I noticed a bin of game controllers. Lately my XBox 360 game controller has been having problems - I charge the rechargable batteries, play for an hour and then it's dead again. I've been through eight pairs of double A batteries before I got the rechargable ones.
I mention that the controller I own has been draining the batteries and he replies,

'oh well, are they rechargable batteries?'

I say they are.

'Well, you should probably recharge them.'

I got outside the store and had a 'wait, bwuh?' moment of 'did he just dismiss what I was saying and explain to me like I was an blithering idiot that I needed to charge the rechargable batteries even though I said there was something wrong with the controller?'

Yes, yes I think he did. Then I thought, 'Is it worth it to get back in line and explain that YES I realize I need to charge the batteries every once in a while but what I'm trying to say, mister, is that they are dead again with one hour of play which doesn't strike me as a fully functioning game controller'. Which brings to question, 'has the world changed since last I noticed because I don't remember the majority of the male species talking down to me like I'm an idiot?'

Or I wonder if it's all the years spent in gender equality classes, reading feminist blogs and becoming more aware of behavior around me. I know he didn't mean it like that and somehow that makes it almost worse - casual sexism that's so ingrained men don't even notice they are talking down to women.

Mansplaining, I think it's called. The really sucky part about being a recovered shut-in is that my social skills aren't up to par. I should have explained slowly to him that it's not in my little lady brain that the controller is bad even if it earned the antagonism of this complete stranger. But as it were it wasn't until I got outside of the store and thought about his response till I realized, gee that was kind of condescending.

Thus the livejournal post.

We live and learn.
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Oh bloody hell [May. 17th, 2012|10:51 am]
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*sigh* [May. 4th, 2012|10:19 pm]
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chauv-alry/ "benevolent sexism" [May. 4th, 2012|12:33 am]
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Does anybody else get even remotely as ticked-off as I do at "benevolent" forms of sexism (which I like to refer to as "chauvalry")? I can't stand it when I get treated like I can't/shouldn't/shouldn't have to perform simple-if-tedious mundane tasks (like catching a bus, hanging up a sweater, opening a door, etc.), or always need help with semi-everyday tasks like carrying stuff just because I'm female. I hate guys that constantly ask me "Are you okay? Are you okay, honey?" (*puke* for any use of cutesy pet names used in earnest by non-significant-other/close friend/familypeople.) for no apparent reason as if I must constantly be in some kind of distress purely by virtue of having two X chromosomes. I dislike the othering aspect, I dislike the implication that I (and women as a whole) are high-maintenance at best and helpless at worst, and I dislike the patronizing behavior packaged as fondness and affection.

Worst is when some middle-aged man is staring down at me (I'm rather tiny at 4'10", which I strongly suspect compounds this/attracts more of this type of behavior than if I were simply female + conventionally attractive; but, of course, I've the triple threat) from the door he's holding open with a big ol' smarmy smile on his face. It seems to happen at least once a week to me, ugh. I once told such a guy, "Come on, let the door go. It's not like my hands don't work." He patted my head and made a snickering comment about "oh, well, aren't you Little Ms. Independent" whilst leaning back with his hands in the air - the universal gesture for "Hey, I'm unarmed!" (i.e. "I'm innocent and you're just being an oversensitive douche!"/"It's easier on my ego to make over-dramatic gestures instead of actually thinking about the effects my words and actions may be having on you!") Yet another guy, to basically the same comment, said in the type of kissy-lipped voice one uses when talking to puppies, "Well, they're just so delicate that it's hard to remember that you even have hands!" Uuuuughh, kill me.

Most infuriating of all is that, when I tried to explain to a man that it's othering - it's treating me like I'm something different due to being a woman, he stared blankly, laughed, and said "but you ARE something different!" *eyeroll* Go ahead and grimace and whine about how you're "just trying to be a gentleman!" all you want; I'm a fucking individual, and the way to be gentle and polite to me? Is to get the fuck out of my way, and let me do shit for myself.

Perhaps even more infuriating than that, is that when I tell other women I know about this, they side with the men, saying "aww, he was just trying to be nice!" or "Sometimes you just have to play to that to get your way - guys love that damsel n distress thing; it gives them an ego boost! So sometimes you just gotta be nice and let them think what they want!"
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TW: rape. If you could see yourself, you apparently wouldn't care. [Apr. 23rd, 2012|01:07 pm]
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So I was at the cinema last week and saw this advert aimed at rape prevention.  

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The most ultimate horror bill I have ever seen. [Apr. 16th, 2012|01:43 am]
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What the fuck is going on in Arizona?

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Dear US-Americans: Is this really going on?
Because it reads to me like the darkest Onion article ever, because my brain justs refuses that such a thing is possible in such a big, prominent country. But it seems it is.

How is this even possible? Why aren't the political offices burning yet in protest?

What the HELL?
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Damn, McDonald's [Apr. 10th, 2012|10:27 pm]
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Today, after getting home from uni I decided to treat myself to McDonald's. I asked for a Happy Meal, as I always do. They were having Ben 10 figures and I LOVE Ben 10. I wanted the Rath one.

Till lady proceeds to put two Barbie dolls in front of me.

This is the second time they've automatically given me the "girl" toys. I'm a grown-ass woman, let me choose my toys, Mickey D's!
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